I just found out I am pregnant. I have been applying for jobs, as I am not happy at my current job. Should I be telling potential employers in interviews that I am pregnant? I wasn't even planning to tell friends before 12 weeks, but do I have some responsibility to reveal it in an interview? I don't want to seem deceptive, but on the other hand I feel like it shouldn't matter, at least not enough to factor into their hiring decision (I am in the US where I would get three months maternity leave, tops). And is there some point at which I should stop the job search until the kid is born? How do I handle this? I remember that my dad once hired a woman who was 6 months pregnant. But I suspect that it's rare.
posted by anonymous to work money (22 answers total)
b) Unless the hiring process takes 3 months, you can have enough plausible deniability to wait until they make an offer to mention that "hey, actually, just yesterday I found out I was pregnant, are you cool with that?"
If what you're worried is that they'd be weird by your having a big medical thing so close to your start date, I wouldn't worry; I broke my foot only 2 weeks after my first day at my new job, and literally one hour after the health insurance kicked in. My boss has been totally fine with that things happen that we can't always schedule conveniently.
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 9:08 AM on January 31, 2012
Thinking about it from the perspective of a prospective employer, I might not want to know. Disclosing that kind of thing would make me instantly worried that you might come back at me for discrimination if I hired someone else. In a weird way, you're protecting them from that charge by keeping it to yourself.
posted by pjaust at 9:09 AM on January 31, 2012 [4 favorites]
It's absolutely none of their business and you are not obliged to inform anyone in this situation. If they took that fact into consideration, they would be discriminating against you as a woman and breaking the law.
posted by clockzero Cheap Soccer Jerseys at 9:10 AM on January 31, 2012 [1 favorite]
Don't mention it until you have a signed job offer.
posted by jeather at 9:10 AM on January 31, 2012 [1 favorite]
Definitely don't mention it. It's already factored into the lower pay (in general) that you will get as a woman compared to a man. It is illegal to factor it into a hiring decision, but it's also going to be pretty difficult to prove they didn't pick you because you were pregnant, and not wholesale jerseys for any other number of reasons. So with what I imagine will be a large pool of applicants in this economy, mentioning it previous to a job offer in hand might screw you over, even if it is illegal.
posted by Grither at 9:12 AM on January 31, 2012 [4 favorites]
If you mention it, they may not hire you, whether legally or not. If you don't mention it, and they do hire you, then in the worst case they may be mad at you when they find out, and in the best case they will be understanding and friendly. In either case their reaction is entirely up to them and beyond your control. Look out for yourself.
posted by PercussivePaul at 9:12 AM on January 31, 2012
You absolutely should not tell interviewers that you are pregnant. An initial interview is there to establish cheap jerseys mutual interest. Once you're hired and you work your first day, that is when you tell them that you are due on October 1st.
Be advised that if you are in the US, you will not be eligible for FMLA even if it is offered at your workplace, because it requires you to have worked there a year. They can let you take maternity leave via your sick days and vacation days, and they may be kind enough to offer you unpaid leave, but they are not obligated to and they are not obligated to hold your job for you as with FMLA.
Employers are not allowed to discriminate against you for your pregnancy. It's against the law. But it doesn't stop them from coming up with other reasons not to give you the job, and it doesn't abate the anxiety on the employer's part of offering the job to someone else and then getting potentially sued by you for discrimination. Don't cause your interviewer anxiety, you know?
Specifically, the FMLA defines an eligible employee as "one who meets all three of the following criteria: (1) the employee has worked for the employer for at least 12 months (not necessarily consecutively); (2) the employee has worked for the employer for at least 1,250 hours in the previous consecutive 12month period; and (3) the employee works at or is assigned to a worksite that has 50 or more employees or which is within 75 miles of worksites that taken together have a total of 50 or more employees."
posted by juniperesque at 9:13 AM on January cheap nfl jerseys 31, 2012 [16 favorites]
Do not (DO NOT) tell potential employers that you are pregnant. You are not obliged to reveal it, and it will probably hurt your chances of getting an offer. If you're as early in the pregnancy as it seems (less than 12 weeks), it's absolutely not the business of potential employers.
Keep looking for a new job as though you were not pregnant, just make sure you're aware of the paid leave/shortterm disability leave policies at both your current employer your potential new one (note juniperesque's excellent point about FMLA leave eligibility). Once you have a signed job offer you can consider bringing it up and negotiating your leave, depending on how far along you are by then. Most women I'm acquainted with did not come out to their employers until 35 months.
You may be able to take nonFMLA leave (possibly partially paid) available under state law, depending on your location. You may be able to use sick leave and/or other paid leave. Some shortterm disability policies cover a certain number of weeks following birth as well. You have some options beyond FMLA, so don't assume it's FMLA or nothing you're just going to do your homework and find out what you have available.
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